The invention relates to a metal surface treatment agent for metal surface pretreatment, in which silane coupling agent is the main composition. The treatment agent comprises the following raw materials: 1, 2- diethoxy estersil ethane (BTSE), gamma- aminopropyl silane (gamma-APS), water dispersible silicon dioxide, fluorine compound, acetic acid and water. On the basis of silane coupling agent film forming mechanism, by selecting and remixing the main composites silane: coupling agent (SA), surface conditioner and auxiliary film forming agent, a metal surface parkerizing substitute with silicon coupling agent as the main film forming agent is researched. The invention has the characteristics of innocuity, harmlessness, non-pollution, low-temperatrue fast processing, operation simplicity, wide material resource, low price, production clearness, etc.